To unplug or not to unplug?

In an age where nearly everyone has a smartphone and every moment can be instantly documented and shared, the concept of an “unplugged wedding” has gained traction. But is it the right choice for you on your special day?

 So what does an unplugged ceremony mean? Why are so many couples choosing it, and is it the right fit for your wedding?

 An unplugged wedding ceremony asks guests to turn off their phones, cameras, and other electronic devices. That means no snapping photos, no live-streaming, and no distractions — at least during the ceremony itself. 

 If you are paying for me to deliver a personal, bespoke, inclusive ceremony, you want people to be present, to interact and enjoy it; after all, your celebrant ceremony is the beginning of your happy ever after.

 When guests aren’t behind their screens, they’re more emotionally present. They’ll watch you walk down the aisle, exchange vows, and share your first kiss, instead of watching it through a camera screen.

 Professional photographers often struggle with guests' phones getting in the way of crucial moments. Aunty Linda leaning into the aisle for a shot can completely block the perfect photo of your first kiss. An unplugged ceremony lets the professionals do their job, and you get better photos. It’s your day, so you should be able to control what photos of you make it to social media.

 A sea of glowing screens can disrupt the romantic vibe. You don’t want to see a phone in every pew when you look back at your wedding video. An unplugged ceremony keeps the setting beautiful and focused.

 In our social-media-driven world, photos can end up online before you’ve even said “I do.” An unplugged ceremony prevents premature posts and lets you decide when and how to share your day with the world.

 Despite best intentions, some guests might feel frustrated or confused by the request. Older guests, in particular, may rely on their devices for accessibility or connection.

 If you’re someone who loves social media and the buzz of live updates, an unplugged ceremony might feel a bit… quiet. Some couples actually enjoy seeing friends’ candid shots on Instagram right after the event.

 Announcing an unplugged ceremony is one thing — enforcing it is another. You’ll need signs, celebrant reminders, and maybe even a firm usher or two to make sure everyone gets the message.

 It’s not always easy, but that’s where I come in. I will firmly remind all guests before the ceremony begins about your decision to go unplugged, and as it’s my job to ensure you have the perfect ceremony, I will tell Uncle Stan that no, he can’t take photos even if he was an amateur photographer back in the day!!!!

 Many couples opt for a “semi-unplugged” wedding — asking guests to unplug during the ceremony but feel free to take photos and videos during the reception. Others designate specific areas or times for photography (like a photo booth or group picture moment).

 You could also appoint one or two “designated photographers” among your guests and ask the rest to stay unplugged until after the ceremony.

 If you do choose to go unplugged, communication is key. Here’s how to let your guests know:

 On your wedding website, include a short explanation of your unplugged ceremony and why it’s important to you.

On your invitations, add a line like, “Please respect our unplugged ceremony — phones and cameras away until the reception!” 

Place elegant signs at the entrance reminding guests to power down, and ask me, your celebrant, to make a short announcement before the ceremony begins. 

 An unplugged wedding ceremony isn't for everyone — but it can make your day more focused, meaningful, and beautifully documented. If the idea of guests fully participating in your moment (without holding up a phone) appeals to you, then it’s worth considering.

 Whether you go fully unplugged or find a balanced approach, the most important thing is that your wedding feels right for you. Together, we can create the beginning of your happy ever after.